I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.
I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.
The question nagged at me—not least because of my own experiences watching promising relationships peter out over text message—so I set out on a mission.
I read dozens of studies about love, how people connect and why they do or don’t stay together.
We may enter a relationship with high hopes and rose-colored glasses, but nobody's perfect. "Trust is broken whenever there is lying that creates a shift in the couple's life," says Neuman.
Most couples will run into a trust issue of some sort over the course of their relationship. "Gambling, drug use, and even emotional and online infidelity often lead to severe trust issues."The fact is, all of the phones, laptops, and social networks we're glued to 24/7 provide ample opportunity for foul play.
I checked the website Eater for its Heat Map, which includes new, tasty restaurants in the city. The stunning fact remained: it was quicker for my dad to find a wife than it is for me to decide where to eat dinner.
While understanding that your partner may have a different take than you is helpful, he writes in Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want, you don't always imagine your partner's actual "different take." The best way to get your partner's point of view, he says, is to simply—oh yes, you saw this coming—ask for it.... Because sure, you want to pounce on him when you catch him in a jerky act—smoking a cigarette out the window?Vagdevi Meunier, Psy D, a Gottman Institute master therapist."As Shirley Glass, author of , has said, affairs are about access and opportunity."If trust has been broken between you and your partner, whether it was a physical affair, an emotional affair, or a gambling or drug habit, we've asked relationship experts to outline the exact steps you need to take if you want to work on rebuilding your relationship.taking a catnap while your toddler plays video games on his cell phone? And not just to calm yourself down, either, though that's a helpful side effect.Experiments by Harvard researchers, writes Epley, demonstrated that when questioned immediately post-bust, people tended to lie due to their dread of punishment.